“It’s a sin to be shy.” The
normally kind church lady took my hands in hers, and in her sweetest voice
shared her revelation with me. Even in my early teens, I had enough spiritual
discernment to know bunk when I heard it. I withdrew my hands while she
continued to “help” me not hide my light under a bushel but share it with the world.
Her way.
I didn’t doubt God’s love for me.
He was the One I could count on when I couldn’t count on anyone else. I knew
her viewpoint was wrong. But, oh, how it hurt my already fragile teen psyche.
Not until I was an adult, and learned about introvert and extrovert
personalities, did I quit feeling “less than” around others simply because I
wasn’t the bubbly one carrying the conversation. God hardwired me to shine my
light in other ways that would probably drive an extrovert crazy. J
But inevitably, it’s always the not
so well-meaning folks who feel they have to ensure someone else’s Christian
life measures up by their own spiritual checklist.
The Bible is crystal clear on
some sin—adultery, homosexuality, stealing, and murder, to name a few. Why?
Because not only is their presence an abomination against God’s holiness, they
are a reflection of the person’s spiritual condition.
Disputes arise over the
interpretation of daily activity, beliefs, and lifestyles that aren’t
specifically spelled out in the Bible as sin. The Apostle Paul refers to this
as “disputable matters.”
Accept the one whose faith is weak, without
quarreling over disputable matters. One person’s faith allows them to eat
anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who
eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one
who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has
accepted them. Who are you to judge
someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they
will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand. (Romans 14:1-4)
In her book, "The Liberty of Obedience," Elisabeth Elliot writes that she thought she had a clear
understanding of what sin was until she went to live with the Auca Indians
who’d murdered her husband and four other missionaries. With no way to communicate
verbally with them, she spent a year observing their lifestyle. The “savages”
took care of their families, showed grace to one another, and lived by a moral
code. Although adultery is rampant in western
civilization, the Aucas wouldn't think of helping themselves to another man's
wife. But…when Elisabeth’s husband had put his arm around one Indian to show
affection, it meant that the missionaries were cannibals and had to be killed
for the safety of the tribe. Elisabeth’s willingness to spank her toddler when
she misbehaved was perceived as barbaric by the Indians. During her “quiet” year, Elisabeth wrestled with the
concept of savage versus civilized. Her conclusion was that each culture has
their own definition of disputable sin which often conflicts with other
cultures. (Great little book that can be read in one sitting.)
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one
another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle
in the way of a brother or sister…For the kingdom of God is not a matter
of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy
Spirit, because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and
receives human approval. (Romans 14:13,
17-18)
Recently, the media descended on George
W. Bush about his parents’ public acceptance of gay marriage. I loved his
response. Rather than disrespect his parents or restate his past stance, which
has always been fairly clear, he said he was too busy trying to get the log out
of his own eye to get the speck out of someone else’s.
Do I know his heart? No. And I
wouldn’t have condemned him if he’d restated his belief that marriage is a
covenant union between one woman and one man, as ordained by God since the
beginning of time.
Do I know for a fact his beliefs
haven’t changed? No. But he took the high road when confronted with a situation
that would have disrespected his family. God’s definition of marriage is clear
in the Old and New Testaments, so Bush didn’t have to argue his position. A
“gotcha” forum isn’t the place for that. Instead, he left it for God to judge
each person’s heart involved.
The most important way we show our
Christian character is through our fruit (Matthew 7:14-21). Instead of wielding
a spiritual yardstick, we can come alongside fellow Christians and encourage
their spiritual growth through Bible study and praying for discernment. If you
ask, God will provide discernment through His Holy Spirit on matters. As
Elisabeth Elliot said, to expect God to give us a rule book with every rule
spelled out is to assume we’ll be spiritual dwarfs during our earthly
residence. He wants us to seek His wisdom to grow spiritually.
What may be perfectly clear to
one Christian may not be so clear to another. In her book “The Hiding Place,”
Corrie ten Boom and her sister Nollie argue over whether lying to the Gestapo
about hiding Jews was right or wrong. It was interesting to watch how each
sister’s stance played out in their lives—both honoring God with the ultimate
cause of protecting His people.
At times, we must take stands on
issues of gray areas. God calls us to count the cost of our discipleship and be
willing to buffet the storms, even inside of our Christian fellowship. In doing
so, let’s be sure we have the Biblical knowledge and spiritual discernment to defend our
stance in a loving way. One way to do this is to ask questions such as: Does this edify my (or others) Christian walk? Does my stance conflict with God's nature as portrayed all through Scripture?
Let
us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual
edification.
Romans 14:19
Sometimes Satan’s most effective
attack against God’s people is to set them against one another and divert from
the Great Commission (Matthew 28:19-20). When we behave as Pharisees measuring
our fellow Christians against a checklist, we’re not “going and making
disciples.” Our time is better spent praying for true discernment of God’s
will, sharing Jesus’ love, and working on the log in our own eye.
My friend, Christian writer Ginny Brant, recently spent time with Elisabeth Elliot, her husband Lars, and her
daughter Valerie. (I’m trying not to be jealous.) The article and photos are
amazing. I pray you’ll be as blessed as I am by Elisabeth’s inspiring story. Click here to read.
In honor of Elisabeth Elliot, who
has made such an impact on my Christian journey, and her years as a faithful
servant of Christ, I’m giving away a copy of her book, “Liberty of Obedience.”
To be eligible for the drawing, leave a comment about the post or
share a thought about how the Great Commission has impacted your life—either in
showing the love of Christ to others or how someone shared Christ with you. Or
you may simply leave a prayer request, if you have one. Please feel free to
e-mail me confidential requests. I’d love to pray for your needs. J
God bless,
Laura
✞
©Laura Hodges Poole
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